Understand them. Stay close to their needs and problems. Their experiences are different from your childhood.

    Expect resistance. Some resistance is a natural part of maturing and wanting independence. They may be unsure of their decisions, be influenced by peers or may rebel when frustrated.

    Be a parent and a supporter. They need to feel smart and capable but know reasonable limits/boundaries to avoid risky behaviors.

    Give them accurate information. They are driven to be in the know with their peers. They may have information you don't have. Get and share appropriate up-to-date information about school and social life.

    Project a positive outlook. Show how problems can be resolved by working cooperatively with others, especially teachers.

    Involve your child. Seek out activities of interest for them.

    Make them partners. Expect them to communicate accurate information between home and school. Expect them to work with you to solve their problems.

    Expect some confusion. Taking more responsibility can be difficult for them. They need you more now than ever.

    Go to the school. Make an effort to attend open house, parent nights, parent meetings, and student/parent events.

    Ask the teachers about your child's work. What needs to be improved? What does your child need to do to make the improvements? Examples: Is the homework completed? Does your child pay attention in class? What can I do to help my child learn to.... read better, know his/her math facts, study, take notes, etc.

    Ask about study skills. How much study time is needed? How often? What study skills need improving? How important is note-taking? How important is reading for class?

    School schedule/routine. What does a normal school day look like? i.e. Class time, change of class, lunch, after-school.

    Student involvement. What special activities, clubs, and events are available for your child at their grade level?

    Contacts. Who should be contacted when questions or problems arise?

    Send a message of support. Show support for your child's school and teachers. Your child is watching!

    Attend school events. Attend your child's school events whenever possible, such as concerts, sporting events or awards programs.

    Follow through. Commit for the long-term. Your middle school parent role will be finished only when your child moves on to high school.



    Attend school every day.

    Get organized. Stay organized.

    Study everyday even if you have no homework.

    Always do homework.

    Make school the #1 priority. Make it a family priority.

    Make friends with learning. Let it be fun, not a chore.

    Start special projects well ahead of time. Find out how interesting they can be.

    Let teachers know how much you appreciate them.

    Have courage. Show your talent for learning even to your friends.

    Learn how to set and meet goals.

    Ask for help. Believe in yourself.